Mariah Carey Says She’s Always Had Low Self Esteem
December 9, 2009 in Beauty & Body Image, Celebrity Quotes, Mariah Carey by Versus
“I have had very low self-esteem my whole life. When I was 12 or 13, I remember walking up the driveway, and this guy who was 20 — which may have been highly inappropriate — said to me, ‘I like your pants,’ and I was like ‘Oh, that looks good? Oh, OK, I will wear tight pants now.”
Mariah Carey in Paper Magazine
Poor girl. Despite her questionable attire sometimes, I think Mariah is beautiful. I hope she is more self confident now!
I agree. She has something i can’t quite put my finger on, but she is so beautiful!
She’s been wearing clothes four times to small because some man told her he liked her pants almost three decades ago?
LOL
Yeah, she should wear clothes witch are her size… She’s quite big and wears super tight clothes all the time. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think she is fat or chubby, it’s just her bigger frame. She has a nice, feminine figure and could look fantastic if she chose some more flattering outfit.
Her face is beautiful, though.
she’s not “quite big!” but this stuffed-sausage look doesn’t do her good. she should wear something her size, what she’s wearing is totally overcompensating her self esteem.
She doesn’t seem to be any more secure now, seeing as how she acts/dresses.
She defently suits curly hair better than straight!!
That’s why she treats other people (like her staff) like crap, that she can feel better than others. This woman is a bitch for me who just thinks about herself and nobody else.
i agree
wow i always thought she had pretty high self esteem, just goes to show you don’t know what really goes on
Wow, I love how some people are trashing her even though she just told us why she dresses the way she does, she’s not fat she’s a human being whose only job is to look good 24/7, i’m sure you would want to relax a little too. It’s really saddening how stuff like that affects people, I respect her for being so honest!
agreed. i found her comment beautiful, human, and honest. refreshing.
i like her clothes ive always loved her clothes i dont like her body type and ive always thought she had an ugly face but really nice hair
what an idiot.
p.s. she looks terrible in that photo. girlfriend really needs to learn how to dress herself.
Most women don’t think highly of themselves. The standards are pretty high these days and most of us are self-aware of how much we cannot live up to them. She’s always had a lovely voice though and happens to bea skilled singer. She can at least rely on that.
Really? That’s sad. What standards are you talking about? Societal ones or self imposed ones?
In truth-both. We tend to impose societal standards on ourselves and these can be said to be our own personal standards as well as most people tend to conform to what society dictates. Note I say “Most” as I am quite certain there are those in our world who just don’t care. There are several studies/surveys showing most women do not find themselves attractive. If they did find themselves attractive there would be no money to be made in fixing them so i guess that’s just par for the course.
Right, ad-campaigns aimed at women tell them they aren’t good enough (so like shampoo for damaged hair for e.g.), and that they need XYZ product to look good, be good, feel good.
Lots of adverts aimed at men tell them they’re already great (think of the razor advert with the gorgeous woman), and that the product is made for them.
I think you’re totally projecting.
Shampoo commercials for women say one thing: you can have great hair with our product.
Razor ads for men say one thing: you can look great with our product.
Advertising isn’t a conspiracy to somehow undermine and bring women’s self esteems down to sell product. It’s just showing you what you CAN look like if you buy their product, whether realistic or not.
We all have insecurities. Both men and women, in our own individual ways. It’s up to ourselves to be able to overcome our insecurities and be confident. We all have good and bad qualities. But as long as we’re blaming others for making us feel bad, we’re not working on confidence…we’re just spreading our insecurities and bad feelings to others.
(by the way aside from the first line, any “you” was a general you, and not you you)
That’s okay, I agree to some extent. People with low self esteem will project such thoughts naturally, but I think it’s naive to believe that adverts tell us only one thing.
They have all kinds of subliminal, psychological information involved that most people aren’t aware is happening. Also, I would feel safe in saying that marketing a product to sell to a female market, and then something to a male-market involves, to a large extent, very different approaches.
I wasn’t blaming commercials for me feeling bad, I don’t (; it was just an observation, though I WILL admit, on a bad day, some ads make me feel like… Arghhhh. But only on those days, you know.
Well, subliminal/psychological messaging only works to the extent that you are “primed” for it. Meaning, if you’re hungry, subliminal messages about food will make you hungrier and want to buy food. But if you’re not hungry, they don’t work.
But I agree with everything else you said. I also agree with you that on some days, commercials can really affect you. Sometimes I still get break outs, and then you have these moisturizing skin commercials and I’m like, “God Damn, why doesn’t my skin look like that!”
I have to remind myself just because I have 4 pimples doesn’t mean I’m ugly/unattractive, although that’s hard to do sometimes.
I think that its amazing how beautiful her honesty is. Sometimes, its the smallest comments from someone that can haunt you for the rest of your life, and I applaud her for pointing that out. I would be lying to say that something a boy said to me in high school hasn’t stuck with me for over 10 years. Good for her.