Christina Hendricks: “I Didn’t Realize My Body Was So Different”
February 16, 2010 in Beauty & Body Image, Celebrity Quotes, Christina Hendricks by Versus
New York Magazine has an interesting piece on curvy/booby girl Christina Hendricks (plus a couple of pictures of Christina in lingerie) – here’s a (big) part of it:
Christina Hendricks thinks all the talk about her body is a little embarrassing. It’s not as if she has an extra limb, after all. She just has an especially attractive version of the same thing women have had forever—curves—but she happens to have them in a profession where women haven’t for quite some time.
“It kind of hurt my feelings at first,” she says. “Anytime someone talks about your figure constantly, you get nervous, you get really self-conscious. I was working my butt off on the show, and then all anyone was talking about was my body!”
“It might sound silly,” she says, “but I didn’t realize I was so different. I was just oblivious. Sometimes I would go on an audition and someone would say something like, Girl, you’re refreshing! That was it.”
And it’s not Hendricks’s fault that she’s come to everyone’s attention as an actress at a time when bodies are very much an issue—if not the issue—as far as fashion is concerned. There are the various attempts by fashion cities like São Paulo and Milan to police model weight; there are press conferences, BMI restrictions, mandatory turkey sandwiches backstage at every show. But lately there have also been baby steps taken toward the (unfortunately) radical idea that looking good need not involve so much rejection of the naturally occurring female shape. Glamour has begun to mix models of various sizes into its regular editorial shoots. A recent issue of V concerned itself with shape, pointing out that clothes—even fashion clothes—can look good on differently sized people.
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Read some more after the jump!
But too often the size discussion becomes almost grotesque, as if the only alternative to being as lean as a skinless Perdue chicken breast is to veer wildly (and unhealthily) in the opposite direction (Gabourey Sidibe, Beth Ditto). One can’t help wonder if the fashion world’s obsession with those two women, both of whom deserve prominent coverage for their talent first and foremost, isn’t in some sense overcompensation, an attempt to atone for the terribly thin models who still hold sway everywhere. Either way, it becomes a game of extremes.
There is a spectacular other path. And Hendricks working the Emmy’s red carpet in formfitting L’Wren Scott is terrific PR for the opinion that Hollywood success should not be determined by one’s ability to Pilates one’s hips up, off, and away. None of this is meant to suggest that Hendricks is big. She is not. (That the New York Times seemed to endorse a stylist’s description of her as “a big girl” in its coverage of the Golden Globes was mystifying and strange.) It is also not to suggest that her figure is attainable to the average duck. She looks the way movie stars used to look. She is, in that sense, proof of how certain bodies go in and out of fashion.
It is perhaps ironic then that Hendricks actually started out as a model—catalogues, mostly, but there was one season on the London runway that ended when her agent said, “Darling, did your boobs grow?” (One imagines that future seasons might see the question posed in the opposite direction.) Now, she is a fully working actor, with three new films in the can and several more under consideration. Curiously, she keeps getting called in to audition for roles as the mothers of people she isn’t nearly old enough, at 34, to have birthed—which has a lot to do with what she wears on TV. “The way we dress on Mad Men is so associated with old photographs, with people’s parents and grandparents,” she says. “In person, I wear jeans and flip-flops and people are so shocked. They tell me I look so much younger than they expected.”
As for the body question, she’ll answer it when asked, but mostly it bores her. “It just leaves a bad taste in my mouth,” she says. “Back when I was modeling, if someone said ‘I’m fasting,’ I would say, ‘Can’t we talk about something else?’”












love her
I love “Mad Men”, and she is so beautiful.
When I was stick thin I was so envious of women like her.
its nice to see it goes the other way too. Im sad to hear you say you werent happy with your body. But for example i am a size 2-4 with big boobs, hips and bubble butt and small waist, yet for some reason my bf thinks i should be jealous of all the stick thin girls. Not saying they are not beautiful, just saying there is not ‘right or wrong’…and no one should be jealous of one thing and beauty is subjective. Also when i was at my thinnest i was jealous of ppl like her…and sometimes still am. but he makes me feel wrong for that. I can also be jealouys of stick thin women at times too but i never used to be, i think because its just never attainable for me, but around him i get like that
Your boyfriend sounds like a bit of a jackass. Sorry
Actually he sounds like a complete jackass. At size 2 or 4 you are already thin. With boobs, small waist and a butt he should be more than happy. Why do you put up with him? If he doesn’t adore your body then he’s not good enough for you.
You’re brave enough to say what I wasn’t.
i guess its just that i think all guys are like that and that my body will never be good enough for anyone. like, they will all have their issues with it…so i may as well stick with the one that has told me about it (i get upset when he says these things so he doesnt say it anymore so much but i know he thinks it because hes already precisely told me what he likes and what i dont have!)
so its like, i feel i have to get over it now. i wish i could start fresh with someone that did love me for me AND love my body. but i guess its feeling like i owe him and cant do any better! and just the things he used to say like ‘he may meet someone else he is attracted to and leave me’ and the fact that he cheated (which was like 3 years ago now) and still kept her as ‘friends’ and talked about how womderful she was makes me think i dont want to go through that AGAIN with another guy! so i may as well stick with the one that SEEMS to have changed. Tho like i said, i still know what he thinks and the damage is kinda done!
Are you a teenager? Because if you guys are teens, than this kind of makes sense because you’re too young to really understand people anyways… I have a damn good body, but whenever I feel otherwise, my boyfriend tells me how beautiful and sexy I am. You’re supposed to be with people that make you feel happy!
Your boyfriend probably says that because he thinks that if you’re confident, you’ll realize he’s not good enough for you!
Sola, I usually try to steer away from giving advice and such on these threads because people seem to take it the wrong way, but I’ve read some of your posts, you seem like a nice girl, and I bet you could do better.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with your boyfriend having that preference, but what IS wrong is that he keeps reminding you of what is “wrong” with you (which btw, is bs, you don’t have anything “wrong,” in fact you sound like you have a good body). If he sees something wrong with you, why is he with you? And why does he tell you about it? I don’t know how old you are, but I’m old enough to know that what you have is an insecure man who only keeps you around because they’re scared of being alone, not because they love and care for you, like you deserve. The cheating confirms this.
Also, most men are not like that. Out of 5 serious relationships, only 1 has ever dared to tell me that I should be a certain way, and make me feel like I’m not good enough. And I felt inadaquate too, until I realized he wasn’t being what a boyfriend should be and was just projecting his insecurities on me.
Basically my advice: Dump that guy. You deserve better, and most likely will find better.
I know its none of my business but I couldnt help myself…sometimes it takes a complete strangers perspective to realise something is wrong and all I wanted to say is you should dump that guy !!! You deserve someone that will love you and respect you for who you are…and trust me they DO exist. Dont ever think you need to settle for that….How can he say things like that …that he could meet someone else he is attracted to and leave you….who does he think he is??? You should make yourself a favor and get out of that relationship. I know abusive comments like that stick for a long time even if the guy has “changed” and they just destroy your self esteem and make you believe you cant even get better than him, which is not true. I am sorry I sound harsh
Your description of how your boyfriend treats you sounds like emotional abuse. He controls you with those comments. Believe me, there are men out there who are NOT like that. You deserve better. And you deserve to feel adored and beautiful. Please don’t feel like you have to stay with this guy, because you owe him!?!?!!! You owe him nothing. He doesn’t deserve you. And you deserve so much better.
Seriously, your bf does sounds like a dickhead. Why should you be jealous of stick thin girls when you sound like you have a lean hourglass shape? In fact no matter what type of body you have you have no need to be jealous of others and your bf shouldn’t make you believe otherwise.
And girl, you CAN start fresh with someone that loves you. Don’t feel as though you can’t do any better than him because i’m sure you can. Plenty of men out there adhere to the sir-mix-alot fantasy of a women’s figure; its not your body that’s the problem at all; and plenty of men just respect a woman for who she is, not her body.
Please don’t follow the commn mistake of putting up with a piece of sh*t because you’re afraid of being alone. I’m single and it can suck at times, but i’m happy knowing that I value myself enough to be alone rather than be with someone utterly useless. You can have the same value for yourself. He says these things to you because he sees your vulnerability and plays on it to cover up his own insecurities. If anything he’s probably threatened by your hot figure and is afraid (or I should say knows) that you could easily find someone else better. I bet if you stood up to him he would be on his knees begging you to forgive him; i’ve seen this type of boy before.
Be strong and know your worth, which is about 50 times what he’s worth
you know what the ridiculous thing is. im not a teen! i was a teen when i got together with him though, now i am early 20′s but yea the self esteem around him is gone. I did leave him for a while (1 year), and he did want me back, and beg for forgiveness. and i kind of did forgive him…like i said now he wont say bad things about my body but when i wanted to talk about the past (before i took him back) he would say things like ‘i DID think this about you and prefer you thin’ (i went anorexic for a while) etc. but NOW i realise it was stupid. I used to think you were ‘realistic’ compared to other girls. but now i dont. so, he does say he has changed but the fact that he tells me these things that he DID think feels like rubbing salt into the wound!
We have been back together for over 6 months but i havent slept with him because i have so much resentment from the past that i feel gross. I feel gross and huge around him because he likes super skinny. Hence the reason i feel i ‘owe’ him =p
oh and i get extra jealous around him! which is ridiculous because thats not usually me!
Anon- like you said, comments stick around! and eat away even if they arent being said directly anymore! but i feel i should just get over it!
Nkeon- im not so worried about being single (kinda am, but kinda feel i need brain space!) but worried i will end up with another like him (i had a bf after i broke up with this one and he was similar)…or that i will just not find anyone ever! silly isnt it! when i read what i have just said i feel like an idiot! lol!
and you are all right! and thanks for your replies and concerns! thats sweet that anyone even read it! just you know, sometimes you just need to rant! especially because this has been going on for so long! such a waste of youth!
Dump him. If the next guy starts acting like this guy, dump him too. Or, better yet, just don’t date for a while after dumping your current boyfriend, focus on your job and/or school, make yourself happy with who you are, and just do stuff you enjoy. Find your life man-free, THAN worry about getting a man.
Sola,
You sound like such an absolute sweetheart, seriously. You deserve a wonderful, honest and loyal man. It sounds as though he doesn’t appreciate what he’s got!
So I’m not going to repeat what everyone else already said, they are pretty much right. As Casey said, I don’t like giving advice here either cause one doesn’t know the whole story, but after your additional information I’m on the verge of begging you to dump him.
I do want to add my sincere congratulations to you for not going back to sleeping with him, don’t ever.
Also if you do end up dating another guy, until you know if he is the real thing and not some other jackass, I would not tell him about your self esteem issues, since rats will use this to their advantage.
And stop thinking you’re huge, with a size 2 or 4, even if you short, you are fare from being huge.
Sola I know you can and will make the right decision because you said it yourself it is a waste of your youth! These years should be some of the best of your life and you should never, ever waste any of your time with someone who makes you feel unhappy about yourself! I know so many ppl have responded but I just had to because I have been in almost the exact same situation! You only have one life to live and you deserve to be completely happy! I understand why you may think that any guy you meet will be the same way but that is completely untrue! You sound like a sweet girl and you sound like you have a great body on top of that and you should never ever have to feel insecure because of your boyfriend! Your boyfriend should be the one person who makes you feel secure and content even when you are at your most insecure point! When you are feeling overweight or unattractive he should be the one telling you that he thinks you are beautiful no matter what! I sincerely hope you realize your worth, you said you have no fear of being single which is great, that is the one thing that held me back from leaving a relationship for so long. I remember times after I had forgiven and believed that my ex had changed, he thought everything was fine but I would be laying there with him with such resentment and it is a fact that it could never be the same. After he has done to you what he has, nothing is ever going to feel right and there is no point in wasting any more time, I promise you will find a GREAT guy and will be so much more happy! You do not want any more years to pass by until you realize that you can do so much better! I hope some of these comments have helped you change your mind and hopefully you make the decision that is best for you! Good luck
Sola-
I am in a similar situation. It started out the same way as you. People always told me I look too thin but he wished I was thinner. He actually says he likes anorexic girls. I think your the type of person who stays with their partner long term and I am that way. It’s 9 years later with me and this guy. There has been change, but not much. You need to take a while for yourself and think if this guy is worth it, or you could just let a few years pass and maybe miss a chance for real love with a guy who is worth it. Time is precious, don’t waste it on a deuchbag like the guy you described.
I really hope you dump him. Your posts make me sad, nobody ever deserves to be treated like that. There really are good men out there. Even if there weren’t, it would be better to be alone than with someone who makes you feel like crap about yourself.
I cant believe how many people have responded to my silly rant! Thank you all! How embarassing though! It’s the first thing people are going to read. I know you are all right and the thing is, even though I think he is has changed, i feel he knows how to use the past to manipulate and ‘appear’ like he is a shoulder to cry on now and a ‘good guy’. He knows the damage is done, so now he can pretend to ‘be there’ when really the reason it is like this anyway is because of him! He makes me feel so bad for not sleeping with him, and its really nothing to congratulate me for- it’s just it literally makes me feel sick that I was so stupid to allow him into my life and waste so much time and that he was so self righteous to take advantage. I guess thats why emotional abusers get away with what they do because they are great at manipulating! I mean, i should know better because I have had so many friends and family go through very similar things…it’s just so different when you’re in it yourself! You can rationalise everything which is clearly detrimental. Anyway, I have actually saved these comments to have a serious read and a serious talking to myself… I wake up feeling sick at teh thought of how much time i have wasted and how am i ever going to get out of it. I’m just going to focus on the things i can do without this brick holding me down! save money! travel! work more! meet new people! date new guys! shop! spend time doing stuff for me- painting my nails! doing my hair! playing dress ups! It’ll be just like i am 17 again! X-)
Thanks again everybody and you all should be issued with counselling degrees! or at least know that your caring about a complete stranger over the net has impacted someone and made someones day!
Truthies- wow i cant believe he actually said that? what planet is he on? I am definately the same as you, feel like relationships should be long term and that i should ‘work things out’ all the time. How come you decided to stay with him though? Or was it more like me, just …happens…you just never get around to leaving because you hope for change/ think he has changed? I hope you dont feel badly about yourself though? It makes me sad to think that girls can think so horrible of themselves ESPECIALLY for what other people have said, particularly their bf’s. Are you married to this man? Do you love him?
Darling, you need to dump that boyfriend. I’ve been with men who made me feel inferior, its not a good feeling. Tell him that if he wants a rail thin body then he should date women with rail thin bodies and stop trying to change you.
She is adorable. I like her thoughts and the attitude.
I like her. It wouldn’t matter if she was skinny or curvy; she would still be beautiful.
completely agree.
sooo beautiful… but i don’t like this cover…
She looks so much prettier in the second picture than on the cover. Not her fault, they gave her some weird styling with dredlock hair, granny panties, and something almost evil about how her eyes catch the light. She’s really way, way prettier than that.
YUCK!
she IS refreshing
OMG that cover is HIDEOUS!! She looks like a cow, literally. Her breasts creep me out – they’re just so huge and white, like udders.
I can say from personal experience that having really big breasts sucks in a lot of ways. Christina may look good (especially to men), but it is sooo much easier to go through life with small breasts than with big ones. With big breasts, if you wear low-cut tops you look trashy and if you were high-cut ones, you just look fat and huge-breasted. It’s hard to find things that fit properly, especially dresses. Oh and exercising with big breasts sucks. And hugging people. And lots of other things.
So yeah. Just my 2 cents.
i too am very large-chested…. i particularly love this woman, as my body too is very much an hourglass, and i adore every little bit of christina. but if you’ve been given big boobs, and if they’re not at the point where they’re at your belly-button, or they’re not aching your back, why not love ‘em up? i rather like this cover, but i agree, sometimes she could cover ‘em up just a bit… anyway, i’d never consider down-sizing them. BUT if i didn’t have them, or if i didn’t have the body i do, i don’t think i’d EVER want it, as it IS a hassle, but that’s not to say i don’t love what i’ve been given, and i certainly handle it, and work it. with great power comes great responsibility, no?
ps, there are certain shirts i can’t wear, such as t-shirts, otherwise i look like a box, but i wear all kinds of shirts very well. and dresses are my favorite… not little hippie dresses, but the dresses that are cinched at the waist… hell, i love ‘em.
I usually like her, but not here. The cover picture is unflattering, in my opinion. Her candids do her more justice.
Also, I’m kind of irritated that they even brought up Beth and Gabourey. Who has ever thought of either of them as a size ideal, or something to aspire to? When have they ever been examples, and when has the trend ever shifted to encouraging women to be their size? The only role I ever saw Gabourey in is of an obese woman, and that’s because you can’t exactly have a size 2 playing the role of a big girl.
Also, these whole “rejecting the skinny trend!” articles are getting dull and cheesy in my opinion. A more interesting and cutting-edge article would forget about her size and talk about her acting skills, which I can finally say are great!
i think they’re rejecting the whole skinny covers just to make curvier women feel good about themselves, which is good but i don’t agree with the fact that they put skinny women somewhere else because they feel what girls see makes them feel insecure about the way the look. i’m pretty sure any girl who doesn’t have boobs or butt will feel insecure when they see christina so what difference does it make? why not represent every body type instead of doing the same ones so you can make others feel better? but that’s how i feel. by the way christina looks good and it’s great she’s focusing on her career and not her body all the time.
i agree with everything in both of these comments
Exactly bigvinamac, but even more than that, I feel like they’re just simply being overdone. Like the whole rags-to-riches strories. They make it sound like Christina has endured a battle to make it as a bigger size in Hollywood, when in reality, her success with the public is mostly because of her figure.
I agree with you,mostly, but two things:
1. Christina does not have a big butt; it’s flat and quite sloppy; her breasts are her assets and she knows how to dress her body
2. We – women – should really stop giving a crap about what magazines portray and just embrace what we have and not let stupid magazines and stupid pictures mess with our brains; confidence is beautiful…
lol true about Chrsitina!- but thats one thing we can learn! ‘dress for our bodies’ or not even for our bodies but to dress up what WE FEEL is our assets =oD
also, ugh so true about the magazines. and society. who the hell has the right to tell us what is right and wrong, beautiful or ugly?!
casey i agree that she is known more her figure but i do think they do this just to reject skinny women because they think it will send a bad message to women who don’t look like the women on the covers. but yes it is overdone. uma, yeah christina doesn’t have a big butt but i was saying how they put the women with butt and boobs and you have the girls who don’t have that feel insecure about what they have. and you’re right that confidence is beautiful and shouldn’t let stupid society views on women on how we’re supposed to look like.
It’s like they’ve made her look bigger on the cover than she usually looks. I think she has such a beautiful and womanly figure, no bones sticking out but just curves exactly where they are supposed to be, the actual meaning of curvy – not just overweight people saying they are “curvy”.
Looks like the cover of a romance novel sans shirtless long-haired male.
haha
LOL
She’s beautiful and her curves are awesome. I wish I had curves *hmph*. haha
She is a nice looking girl but I wouldn’t want that much boob – it looks a little sloppy actually… yup “Slop” it the correct term I would say.
shes stunning! very classy lady!!! i dont like the cover either. wished they had used another pic of her in those dresses that she wore in the past.
The cover is horrible not feeling it at all. I’m just really over everybody making a big deal about her size she’s voluptuous, talented and that’s it. People get over it!!!! Also I’m fed up of her sexy spreads can we please see her in glamour or allure or even elle because vogue would neeeeever put her on a cover UGHHHHA O YEA I FORGOT SHE’S NOT THIN ENOUGH!!!!!!!
just because she’s not thin enough doesn’t mean she can’t be on covers of vogue or glamour. there’s nothing wrong with her body but we all have opinions about it.
Well, truthfully she can’t be on the cover of vogue. Old Nuclear Wintour has some pretty firm specification on who can be on it. You have to be able to fit in sample sizes. that’s pretty small. Glamour would take her though as long as she doesn’t do Cosmo. They hate Cosmo.
I was being sarcastic like editor in chiefs won’t allow it because she not the “norm” thanks ann for getting what I meant!!!!!!
well you sure don’t sound like it and calm down. i get what you’re saying.
It’s so funny that most comments are about the cover rather than the article!
I agree with her that this obession over who has curves and who doesn’s is getting very boring. She’s not the first and only curvy woman to become famous. Look at MJ Blige. She has big lips and an hourglass figure, but no-one was bothered at the time. Suddenly, there’s this obession with curves and ppl like Hendricks have gotten caught up in it.
Love her, but agree not the best picture on the cover.
I also really really love the article. It’s hit the nail on the head, in my opinion. It’s like we have the size 0-4s, and then we have obese (like the examples listed). It’s uncommon to have healthy bigger (bigger as in bigger than a 6, smaller than a 12 or so) girls. They say they want to make a ‘better example for young girls’ by putting a bigger girl on the cover of their magazine, and they end up putting girls who are obviously overweight or obese. That’s not healthy either.
The cover is so ridiculously unflattering, I don’t see how they got the green light to use that photo. It’s like they were deliberately trying to make her look fat! Her eyes look wonky too. I don’t really find her pretty but she is definitely an attractive woman.
yep i agree i think they were deliberately trying to make her look fat! she looks better in candids.
oh i just read my comment, i dont mean that i think she looks fat here. I meant that its like they were trying to make her look ‘fat’ as in negative…not that i necessarily think they succeeded. I think they made her look worse than she really does but not bad or fat
wow wow wow wow wow, i love her!
She is gorgeous and I do believe curvacious figures like hers are gradually becoming the new ideal. It’s clearly what men like and soon women will be looking for ways to become fuller figured.
men will like whatever they want and i think all body types should be represented.
don’t talk for all men, since they all have different tastes.
Women will be looking for ways to become fuller figured? You mean like injecting their body with silicone or wearing a huge outfit made of padding or what? Yeah, those sound great, about as good as starving yourself.
It’s clearly what SOME men like, not all men. Don’t speak for all men, whenever you do that, you make some girls reading this feel bad about their bodies for no reason. And that’s uncalled for.
People, get over this “when you say certain things it makes people feel a certain way”. No, it doesn’t. People choose to feel that way, therefore it’s their responsibility. It’s not mine, it’s not hers, it is the responsibility of the person feeling the emotion.
Actually it does make people feel a certain way. You can try to justify it however you want and blame the people, but such comments play on people’s insecurities and that’s usually out of someone’s control.
Quite frankly, I think people get a teeny bit of pleasure from posting such comments, that they somehow validate their own bodies by saying stuff like that. (e.g. skinny girls will say men like slim, bigger girls will say men like curvy). But to get your pleasure from putting others down…that’s awful to me. And unnecessary since we are not each other’s enemies.
I do not jump in anyone heads and rearrange their thoughts. I do not force people to feel anyway. In between stimulus and reaction there is this spot were Human Beings can “think”. Therefore however you react, emotionally, that’s your responsibility. The fact that their can be multiple response to a single stimuli proves this. If people want to say nasty things by all means they are within their rights. People need to take responsibility for how they react to things. I personally pay no mind to people who say dumb things. It doesn’t affect me.
@ann: your freedom ends where other people’s freedom starts; insult, calomny, extrem offense, herrasement are viewed as criminal acts in many legislation. So no, sometimes it is not the ones who’s reacting resposability. Check your facts.
Well, considering I have done none of these things, I’d say I’m doing ok. I did not mention actual legal crimes in what was said. Frankly, I can’t understand the end of your comment. I’ll just repeat the point: The act of saying something does not make one responsible for the way anyone feels. This person in question committed no crime. If you choose to feel bad because of what she said it’s your choice. You can feel some other way. Time to stop blaming others and live your life.
Simply stimulus and reaction? So, if I go up to someone, slap them, it’s their fault for feeling pain, right? Because I mean, pain is just the brain’s reaction to aversive stimuli, so the person should choose to ignore it. It’s their choice to feel the pain that came from the slap. They should take responsibility for it.
It may be that in your opinion, what people say doesn’t have an impact on others and people need to get over it, but it’s wrong. What people say has an impact on others. And quite frankly there are biological, religious, ethical, moral, legal, or evolutionary reasons, whichever you like, to sometimes keep your mouth shut when you know that what you say is going to hurt someone.
Like I said, it’s sad when someone gets their kicks from putting down others.
“Simply stimulus and reaction? So, if I go up to someone, slap them, it’s their fault for feeling pain, right? ”
Complete freaking strawman and I knew you’d take it there. If someone gets slapped, OBVIOUSLY SOMETHING PHYSICAL HAPPENED. Someone got assaulted and yes the nerve ending are going to react and you will feel pain. You cannot compare actual physical action with speech. The courts proved that a long time ago. If i say “_______ person is fat”, said person can have varied responses. In the end if they choose to get upset, it’s because they decided to feel that way. Certainly it’s a rude statement to make but, you don’t have to let me make you angry. That’s whole point, people have the power to feel a certain way therefore they are responsible for those emotions,responses, thoughts. Magazines are not responsible for people feeling a certain way, people choose to react that way. If someone says something rude it’s much the same. Stop giving your power away to someone else.
Actually, I was not making a strawman argument. I was trying to get you to clarify your distinction between physical stimuli and emotional stimuli, because you seem to think there is one. You seem to think there is a matter of choice involved, but what you are doing is confusing emotional reaction and emotional response. Emotional responses are governed by same neuronal principles as pain, just in more complicated and unpredictable pathways. The moment you hear or see that emotional stimulus, your brain start processing in two routes…the high road (consciousness) and low road. Low road will begin emotional responses (depressive symptoms, euphoric symptoms, whatever), way before you are even consciously aware of taking in the stimulus. We do have a choice of how we’re going to react to the stimulus, but by then the emotional response has already occured, and may inhibit proper emotional reactions like “ignoring.” Emotional reacting is way too late in the emotional pathway to stop the emotion from happening. And there is no choice about it…your brain process the info, taps into your memory, without your awareness. If you have been conditioned or wired to associate anxiety or depression with certain words, like “men don’t like fat girls,” you will have an emotional response seeing it, and it won’t be by choice. I can hook you up to any physiological measurement and prove it.
I completely agree with you Casey, everything that you said. I read through the whole conversation because ironically my professor was talking about something very similar in class today. You are completely right Casey, you said everything I would have said and I don’t even have the time to acknowledge what Ann is saying nor do I feel like reading her “I laugh at all of you and I am to smart for this website” response. But thank you Casey for saying what you said. Ann sometimes you have to realize that you are not always right I feel like you refu
I completely agree with you Casey, everything that you said. I read through the whole conversation because ironically my professor was talking about something very similar in class today. You are completely right Casey, you said everything I would have said and I don’t even have the time to acknowledge what Ann is saying nor do I feel like reading her “I laugh at all of you and I am to smart for this website” response. But thank you Casey for saying what you said. Ann sometimes you have to realize that you are not always right I feel like you refuse that you are wrong most of the time.
“Ann sometimes you have to realize that you are not always right I feel like you refuse that you are wrong most of the time.”
Long stretch you are making. You don’t know me. Sorry, I don’t think i’m wrong on this count and there are many people in my everyday life who agree with this type of thinking. You choose what you want to feel. You can either accept that as it stands or continue to have your emotions dictated by others.
there is no point of arguing with someone who doesn’t think they’re wrong and assumes we’re weak and simple minded because we let words get to us, knowing words do hurt, emotionally and physically. if someone called you a bitch, knowing that word is offensive and you don’t like it, you can’t help but get mad. i’m so sick of people saying words are words and shouldn’t let them affect us. if that’s the case i don’t think young girls wouldn’t be having so many body issues or anything else in life. so let someone disrespect you, don’t get mad at the person because obviously words shouldn’t mean nothing. i agree what you said casey. at least you’re being mature about it. at the end of the day whether you like to hear it, words affect you more than getting slap in the face because physical wounds heal faster than the mental and emotional wounds. and that’s a fact right there. so i know i will get yelled at by ann but frankly i could care less.
I do not agree, that is not true. Not even just in my opinion, that is not true period.
Prove it.
I believe Casey already did so if you look above. I can see where you are coming from with your statements, absolutely, but what I am disagreeing with is that 100% of the time one chooses what they feel. It is simply not true, I would think that you should know this from your own life but if you claim to always choose how you feel then I don’t know what else to say. I disagree.
When I was a child I did not choose. I knew no better. When i grew up, I learned control. I learned how to think. I learned how to take in information and then formulate a response. That’s the point here. No one makes anyone of intelligence think a particular way. They choose to feel/think/respond that way. This commenter is not responsible for women who think men only like T&A. The person who buys into the statement is ultimately responsible because they never had to believe it.
I am not saying this regarding beliefs and thoughts, I am agreeing with Casey regarding emotion. Emotion is definitely out of our control at times and does not always involve thinking and choosing. I could go on and on about this but don’t have the time. Here is a simple example, look at the definition of emotion: A mental state that arises spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and is often accompanied by physiological changes; a feeling.
ann, fine, you are superior than everyone else because you have rejected the norm. Clearly, we are all silly and should be like you. People who get insulted by people who are out to insult are just weak and inferior people, and should just get over it. It’s not like we are a social species or anything, so why should we care what others say? And it’s not like there are thousands of years of evolution that has built into us mechanisms that judge what people are saying automatically without our desire, control, and choice…
It’s pointless arguing about this with you. I’ve made my point, which is backed by current neuroscience. Thank you Mariah for your comments. And ann, I don’t know you, but I know people like you, and to be honest, they’ve all been pretty much like everyone else no matter how much they pretend to be different. Human is human.
God I was not putting anyone down. I was just speculating on the future of the ideal feminine shape. Everyone knows it changes with every generation. I do think soon the demand will be for curvier women. I didn’t say that was the only way women should look. I was thinking of old ads like this one:
http://cache.jezebel.com/assets/images/39/2010/01/0_3529b_4f7e17a9_xl.jpg
I got attacked on another comment page for the same thing. It’s not a very welcoming environment, it seems.
I think curvy will be “in” soon. Yes, men always have their own types, but it’s just MY OPINION that I and my fiance agree that curvy is good and women with curves should embrace them. Being curvy will become a new “trend” again.
Note, just because I LIKE the curvy woman better (also note HEALTHY curvy women – difference between curvy and fat) doesn’t mean that I’m curvy and just saying that to feel better. I’m 120lbs, 5’4″, and a size 4. I do still have curves (I’m a 32D and my waist to hip ratio is at 0.7 – a good ration to be at). I just don’t like how skinny is becoming the equivalent of pretty. That’s it, that’s HOW I FEEL. No one has to agree, but those are my thoughts and I don’t like being attacked for thinking that. Yes, women come in all shapes and sizes, and I think people should look how they are as long as they’re HEALTHY.
I don’t support teenage girls “dieting” and developing eating disorders in order to fit the “skinny is best” mentality. My best friend was anorexic and bulimic, and she’s only eat when she was around me so I wouldn’t suspect anything (this was before she told me). Even then, she didn’t eat much, and she’d throw it up some times. She’s getting better now, but a couple years ago, she was having real image issues. She’s naturally much curvier, and she wanted to fix that, and she actually has a lot of health issues now because of it. So, yeah, I don’t believe women should do things to their bodies like that just to be skinny.
If you’re a curvy girl, embrace it! You are who you are, and men (the good ones, anyway) always love a women who is natural, real, confident, and most of all… themselves! ^_^
the whole curvy/skinny is in trend is crazy if you ask me. i think women of all shapes and sizes should be embraced and no i’m not attacked but you came off as if you think being curvy is the way to go and how women should look. it’s just as bad as hollywood telling young girls you have to be thin to be beautiful so that’s why i commented.
I see nothing wrong with the cover. We used to see smaller girls so it does not mean she had to look the same way too. She is just bigger…but I adore this woman, she is so sexy and pretty and what is even more important she seems really really smart!
oh lol grandma boobs
I’d never ever trade my petites with hers ughh
I agree… I’d like mine to be a little bigger, like a C cup. But bigger than that I would never want to have! I want to be taken seriously…
Wow, really, cause if you have big boobs no on takes you seriously. But they do, for your ignorant opinions, right? Guess what, if you have big boobs it does not mean you go around showing them in everyone’s face.
Good grief…whether or not a person is taken seriously depends on their actions, not the size of their breasts. You’re doing a great job of perpetuating stereotypes.
She’s absolutely gorgeous – love the show Mad Men.
I was just wondering one thing, would Christinas body be considered refreshing and gorgeous if she wasn’t so facially beautiful? A part of me thinks that her body wouldn’t be as praised if she was more plain looking as there seems to be a tendency within society to be more accepting of various bodysizes as long as the body has a pretty face attached…
hmmm i see where you are coming from. and by no means is she big! she is actually slim but those knockers make her look rounder than she is, but i agree about the face
Without the face, she wouldn’t have been hired as a leading lady in the first place. She’d be completely ordinary looking. Her body type isn’t usual for Hollywood, but its not THAT hard to find either.
Without the out-of-the-ordinary-for-Hollywood bazoomas, she’d be like January Jones – pretty and talented, but hardly a popular conversation topic.
Without the acting skills to back up the boobs and the face, she’d be a centerfold girl in a mens mag at best. A Kardashian at worst. ~_^
The cover is extremely unflattering. She has tiny waist and big boobs and on the cover she looks just thick :/
I just dont see whats so great about her.
the cover didnt do her any good!
but damn!!! she has the perfect curvy body! big boob, small tiny waist and hips! damn! its all natural,,,not so cartoonish like Kim K! LOL!!!
this is the real deal! ….
and people sayin “yuck!,,,,get a life, cus this is a true woman…..
I HAVE a petite body with a bubble butt and lol i do envy her shape!!!its perfect
that is a WOMAN!
BTW, how funny is it that it is now refreshing to have a beautiful woman with big boobs…?
Men love this body and then always have! No refreshments needed. Now I just need to go find a bustier.
Who cares what men prefer. Would you change your weight to please men?
Why this woman is always half-naked or showing her boobs? Can’t she do nothing more? We all know you are sexy and have big boobs, that’s awesome, but stop it already. All her dresses are the same. I wish she would hire a stilyst to show her that there is more in the fashion world than looking super-sexy. I have never seen her playing with other styles, always Jessica Rabbit , it’s was fine at first but now she is just boring – playboy bunny-like.
Because she probably has low self-esteem like the rest of us and got called butterbody ’til she took out her tits so people’d stop telling her she’s fat/has no behind/needs to take 8 in. off her waist or whatev.
OK. Hate done for today.
she is absolutely beautiful. i miss this body time. just like marilyn.
The cover shot is unflattering. That bustier is FAR too small in the cup!
You can understand why she feels so uncomfortable with all the obsessing over her figure. She’s been made into the figurehead (so to speak) for a move to a more curvacious ideal (even if that isn’t actually happening), when all she’s done is walk on set.
Loving the corset in the second picture, though.
beautiful!
i think a couple of people have mentioned this before… but i think it is really frustrating for girls/women who don’t fit in to the model/thin/waify category and never will, and who also don’t fit into this ‘real woman’ (more like sexual goddess) figure. christina is definitely a beauty, she has an amazing body, but now she is just one more ideal that many women will never be able to reach naturally. i am quite thin, and let me tell you, if i put on weight, i will not have the same body as christina, just as if i lose weight, i will not have the body of a model. i just don’t have the right proportions.
it’s like they are saying, it’s great to be curvy, as long as you’re this kind of curvy, and have a beautiful face to match.
so what am i left with now after reading this article? envy, once again, for now two totally unattainable (to me) body types.
i think i’ve finally realised how god damn stupid it is to have so much focus on bodies. sure, it feels good to look good, but ‘good’ can be so many different things. i think everyone is just bored, and needs to find something more important to think about.
oh, and all men don’t want the same thing. just the same as all women don’t want the same thing.
i don’t like muscular guys, i like thin ones, with dark hair and dark eyes. there is my ideal. other people would say that that is unattractive, that my guy is weedy. other people would say they want blonde hair, big muscles, tanned skin and a big smile. others would want glasses, some would want a bigger guy, some would want a shorter guy.
everybody wants different things, and there is going to be someone out there that likes what you’ve got.
Christina Hendricks comprove that differences are good.
“It might sound silly,” she says, “but I didn’t realize I was so different. I was just oblivious. Sometimes I would go on an audition and someone would say something like, Girl, you’re refreshing! That was it.”
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Aw. She’s so cute.